I was just reading some posts on after break ups. Um, so, I guess love is a game and all about game strategies? At least that how I feel from reading different posts that talks about pretty much the same thing. I'm gonna ask again...do we have to play games? I think life would be so much easier without all these game playing. Life is too short for games, don't you think? And what is with the whole ego thing? Is it really that important? Not saying these strategies are bad (friends suggested these too) but just want to type my thoughts on it.
So I read that after a relationship ends, you shouldn't message that person (not even accidentally) because it's not attractive to them, they think you won't leave them alone and makes them think you are needy. I did message and it was really an accident (trust me or not). You know how easy it is to press things with all these tablets and smartphones right (just one touch and the thumbs up is sent...)?
I always text someone else by accident. I saw a guy friend once and thought his hair was different and I was going to text a friend about it but I ended up texting that guy friend with interesting hair. I was like OMG, he asked "who are you talking about?", so I just said you...it just looked different haha... Good thing I didn't say anything bad. How did I even end up texting that guy? Well, I saw him pass by my PT job so I texted him (usually they will come back to my store and talk for a bit), his convo was on my list of texts and I just clicked on the first one without realizing it was him. I thought it was my friend... So accidents do happen! Oh one more, I accidentally texted my boss, "why does his (person I liked) last name have to be blank (not saying what last name)?", same reaction...OMG!
Next, if your ex reaches out to you, don't react, don't reply, don't make a conversation because it will give them an ego boost. And it also shows them that they still have a big impact on you. Ok, I never thought of the whole ego and big impact thing, I reacted or whatever because I think it's a type of manner. If they find it as an ego boost then ok, fine, whatever, if it makes you happy. Under certain circumstances, maybe you shouldn't reply but I don't think you have to ignore them? Can't be together, still can be friends, right? I know it's something easy to say but hard to do. But whatever people do, we should always respect it. I'm sure they have their reasons.
Another one, don't talk about an ex in public, don't let them know you have been talking and crying over them. Uh, my whole blog is pretty much about that or I won't have any stories to share... So what if he finds out? Not like he doesn't know I'm an emotional person that can cry about anything. I'm pretty sure he knows I'll be talking about him, how can I not? He was once an important person to me. I'm just saying what's on my mind and how I feel. Is it wrong?
It says if you follow those "rules" (there were more), your ex would think about you, what you are up to and a high chance they will get back with you. Really? Then this world wouldn't have so much heart broken people. But they do state that, it's not guarantee. Well, I didn't follow all of the above, so?
Honestly, how much can I care about? Do I care if he thinks I'm desperate or needy because I'm doing all these "do not do's"? Messaging an ex doesn't mean you are desperate and want them back. At least to me, it's not, I'm just doing what my heart tells me to do after an accident. I just wanted an answer to my question (which has nothing to do with us) and to see what kind of person he is after things end. I mean I can't stop him from thinking that I'm needy or anything. As long as I know the reason why I'm messaging then that's all it matters. It's just like how I can have tons of different answers to why he had to show up last time. He can't stop me from thinking of all the possible answers, right?
Random moment, started listening to a new playlist at work because the old one was getting boring. I like this one.
Nico & Vinz - Am I Wrong
"So am I wrong for thinking that we could be something for real?
Now am I wrong for trying to reach the things that I can't see?
But that's just how I feel, that's just how I feel
That's just how I feel trying to reach the things that I can't see
Hope you, hope you don't look back, always do what you decide
Don't let them control your life, that's just how I feel
Fight for yours and don't let go, don't let them compare you, no
Don't worry, you're not alone, that's just how we feel"
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